How to Get Your Boyfriend to Pay More Attention to You and Not His Friends

 Do you feel your boyfriend is paying more attention to his friends than your relationship? Here's how to get the spotlight back on you.

 

Method 1 of 2: Common Ways to Increase Boyfriend Attention

1. Understand the cause of his declining attention. There may be several reasons for his waning interest and some of them may even have nothing to do with you. Stress at work, ill-health or anxiety over his family often depress a man’s romantic urge.
2. Find activities which you both enjoy doing together. Whether it's a walk or trip to the beach or movie, find something which you both can get excited about and do together. Try as many different things as you can until you find a few which you both really enjoy. Try thinking back to where you met him and what activities you both used to do when you were first going out.
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   Make compromises. Even though it may not be fun, sometimes you might just have to go to a sports match with him or watch television. If you do things he likes doing, he'll be much more receptive to paying attention to you when you're doing things he doesn't enjoy too.
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   Try to be friends with his friends. This does not mean that you have to start guzzling beer or go ecstatic over a football game. Just be cheerful and positive. Your partner’s friends too will like to hang around with you, while your man will enjoy having your company as well.
5. Take the initiative. Get out of the habit of always leaving your man to plan your dates. For instance, you could take your partner out for a movie or show and round off the evening with dinner at a place of his choice. This will not only get his attention, but perhaps make him grateful enough to want to reciprocate the next time.
6. Make yourself less available. Don't be so anxious to answer every time he rings or texts. When he bugs you about not answering immediately, tell him were busy in a polite way. Men like what they can't have all the time.

Method 2 of 2: Work On Yourself

1. Stop demanding attention. Nothing makes a guy run away faster, than a girl who creates a scene, demanding to know why he has not been paying attention to her lately. Don’t beg or quarrel with your partner or he will think you are just being dramatic.
2. Be independent. Make sure you have your own interests and friends. If he goes out with his friends, then go out with yours. Try out for a sports team that you like. Don't let him hold you back from your hobbies.
3. Take care of yourself. Nothing should stop you from following a healthy lifestyle. Continue to have a nutritious diet and go for regular work outs. Care about your looks, but don’t obsess over it. Remember that if the only reason your partner is interested in you is for your looks, then he probably wants your body more than your heart.
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   Understand your own behavior. Are you always nagging him to do something he doesn’t like, or have you been asking him to change some aspect of his personality? Do you simply feel you're not getting what you want out of the relationship? Analyzing the situation (within reason) will help in achieving the attention you want.

 

Tips

• Before you start a fight, stop and think if what he's doing is really worth fighting over. Most of the time (if it's something small) you'll move on and forget that you were even upset. Just keep yourself busy with other things too. With this I'm not referring to major things, just those little annoying things, like the new iPhone 5.
• Try to avoid jealousy. That results in low self-esteem and looks ugly.
• You can't change a person. They just need to realize how special you are. Once they realize it they not might change because they won't want to lose you.
• A girlfriend is still a friend. Be sure to be there for him when he needs it most and he should be there for you too.
• Always be fun. Don't be so serious all the time.
• Don't worry too much about changing him. You can't change a person who doesn't want to change. Remember the qualities you were drawn to before you were dating. If something needs tweaking, do a little behavior modification. Show him by being a role model.
• Be fun and goofy. There is no need to be boring.
• Don't get upset when your boyfriend has a "night out with the guys."
• Don't get mad when he's talking to his other friends (guys or girls). Just because he's talking to them instead of you at that moment doesn't mean that he cares about you any less.

Warnings

• Acting more busy and going about your business, might actually draw him back to you. Men need space here and there to realise what means to them.
• Too many girls become anorexic or bulimic over their boyfriends. Not only will this not help a guy pay more attention to you, but it's dangerous behavior that could be fatal.
• Don't pay attention to the little jokes he makes that hurt you. Guys aren't the only ones that don't have a clue what they are talking about.
• Being obsessive over things he does or where he is will make your boyfriend avoid you and potentially break up with you.
• If you feel you're being ignored or not getting what you deserve out of the relationship, it may be time to move on.