STEP
1
Think about what you've learned from the relationship, and start using that in a daily basis.
It may not have worked out between you, but maybe you learned better
listening skills, to be less possessive or how to set personal
boundaries.
2
Don't repress your feelings. This doesn't mean contacting your ex or making it public how much pain you are in. Take time to yourself to journal, go for a walk or go for coffee with a close friend to talk about the relationship and how you are feeling.
3
Write down a list of seven great qualities you have, and post it somewhere you will read it every day.
Remember that people break up and start dating for many different
reasons. Often times the break-up is not a reflection of you personally,
rather the other persons issues. Try not to blame yourself or think
that you no longer have anything to offer the world.
4
Don't rebound. This may
temporarily make you feel better, but even after months of the new
relationship when it's all said and done you will still be left with
unresolved feelings about your ex. Take time to heal, stand on your own
two feet. There is nothing more attractive then a confident, independent
person.
5
Resist the urge to contact your ex.
Your brain will be looking for any way possible to get in contact with
them, or see how they're doing. Resist at all costs! By contacting them,
you are submitting to their emotional manipulation and showing them
that you are still obsessing over the break-up. If it is meant to be and
they are the ones who broke it off, they will contact you.
6
Breathe. Allow your
emotions to take their natural course and don't push away feelings of
rejection or hurt. They are normal and once fully experienced you will
have a renewed sense of strength.
7
Use the power of music.
Find some songs that describe what you're going through and liberate you
to move on. Music is one of the best sources of healing.
8
Keep yourself busy. When
you have memory flashbacks or miss your ex's company, do anything to
take your mind off it. It could be anything from rearranging your
shelves to trying a new recipe.
9
Make goals for yourself everyday and try to reach them.
Whether it be, going for a walk, meditating, cleaning the house or
doing something you have put off for a long time. Cross each goal off
the list once completed. This will make you feel more accomplished and
will take your mind off your ex.
10
Stay away from alcohol or other emotion evoking substances.
You may think a night out with friends will be the perfect remedy,
until that night of fun turns into tears in the bathroom and drunk
texting.
11
Be mature about the situation.
Don't send him hate mail, or give him any reason to be upset with you.
You want him to remember you as the one that got away, not the psycho
girl who never left him alone after he broke it off.
13
Smile. Showing that you
can find something to be happy about will attract positive people and
things into your life. Break-ups can be devastating, but they also make
you a stronger person. Let the warmth of your personality shine through
that wonderful smile, and one day he'll realize what he lost.Tips
- When you feel positive about yourself, there's no telling where you will go. Let go and see where date takes you. Maybe your ex actually wants you back.
- Spend some time away and give yourself a break.
- Dont go on thinking it was your fault, its him who has probably made the mistake. Keep your head held up high and move on, theres that special someone out there who is waiting for you.Don't put yourself down because there's more to do in life.
- Don't spend all of your time beating yourself up over what you may have done wrong. It's not productive and won't help you heal. Instead, focus on bettering yourself.
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